Most People Fear Vulnerability, And Can Recoil From You Over It (Sad Truth)
We need to stop writing articles telling men to be emotional.
The New York Times did a piece yesterday on “why it’s so hard for men to make friends,” which has become a pretty big canon of discussion since about 2015. I myself have covered off on this about 237 times, notably in these three deeper dives:
Now, all the same stuff happens in all these articles. We talk about men not caring about others (not true), we talk about men making friends side-by-side (true), we talk about conventional male definitions of success (but not in the right ways), we act reductionist in comparing men to women (accomplishes little), and then we give a few generic pieces of advice (the bow).
Now, this part, which I screenshotted from NYT, is true:
You should reach out to friends more. Both men and women are bad at this. We get consumed by “so busy with the kids” and “work is killing me right now.” The funniest shit about those two…
