Yes, There’s Male “Cope” Online Too

It’s not just women crying in their cars on TikTok.

I never tried to get after an article about the “NYC Colombian nanny” debate. I glanced at it at the time, and because I have written a bunch of other bullshit about gender wars and gender roles, I was exhausted and decided not to touch it. Then, like any online flashpoint, it completely faded from my memory until I found this mention of it on the Cartoons Hate Her Substack. (Good Substack, BTW. I am mostly broke and recently just paid for it.)

The point in that Substack is important. We generally associate the idea of “cringe” or “cope” online with females, and admittedly, yes, women do post a lot of cringe-y and cope-y stuff, often sitting in their cars crying about men or work. That does happen, and it is often cringe, but you also have to remember there’s maybe 1,000 women at most that do that, 44 of whom go viral, so it’s also not enough to say “Women are collapsing.” Although yes, there’s also a weird ecosystem where men (guys like “Ace Nate” and “Sigma Male”) make reaction videos about those videos, so they go more viral. Anyway.

The thing is, men post a lot of “cope” and “cringe” too — it just comes in different formats.

Let’s go to this Colombian nanny debate. If you remember it, the idea is that it’s stupid to…