What If Modern Women Cannot Parent Boys?

This is something we should discuss more openly, perhaps.

Ted Bauer
8 min readJun 18, 2024

About a year ago, I was talking with this woman at my church. She was mid-30s and on the dating scene, looking for someone to spend some time with and maybe get that beautiful slice of the pie known as “motherhood” from. She told me that almost every guy she matched with and went on a few dates with was horrible and dysfunctional and couldn’t hold a conversation, which tracks with much of my experience of trying to make male friends over the age of about 32.

She told me that it infuriated her because Boomer women she knew would always coo “Boys are so much easier to raise!” (which, come to think of it, I have heard Boomer women say) and she wanted to scream in their face: “You raised the worst generation of men we’ve ever seen.”

I always found that funny.

Well, there’s a lot to the whole “boy mom” narrative, not the least of which is the Freudian aspect, whereby you have a derp husband that doesn’t do much, and then you get Baby James, and Baby James is cute and does whatever you want and follows you around, and maybe James kinda sorta replaces your husband, and then when Baby James is older and more strapping and an athlete, maybe once in a while you jump into his arms after a game and some people in…

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Ted Bauer

Mostly write about work, leadership, friendship, masculinity, male infertility, and some other stuff along the way. It's a pleasure to be here.