What About The People Who Don’t Accept Apologies?

What happens therein?

Like any good little functional alcoholic, I have decimated many a friendship in my day over completely worthless drivel. Most of these come back around in some way, but not all do. There’s actually a very specific subset of people who absolutely will not accept apologies, and will hold a grudge until the absolute end of time. I actually felt like one of those people in probably 2007 and then again in 2017, but now when and if people “wrong” me — which doesn’t happen that much all-in anyway — I try to be pissy for a second (read: two weeks max) and then try to re-engage with them. It often works, but periodically does not.

I think about the idea of “forgiveness” and “redemption” often:

Who is “deserving” of redemption, eh?

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