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The Various Resentments Of Infertility
If you experience infertility on the male/female/both side, it can be frustrating and alienating and depressing and all sorts of things at once. If you’re in that boat and have stumbled upon this article, let me just trace a few potential resentments you will encounter and how, potentially, to deal with them.
Resentment Of Others
Logical one, as some people get pregnant easily and some flaunt their pregnancy constantly, and some present their pregnancy to you — even if they know you are struggling — in obtuse, less-than-empathetic ways. I had an old therapist who I cried about infertility in front of a few times; he once told me, “Well, it didn’t take Sara and I any time at all.” Nice. I know tons of women through my wife who post ridiculous “Ooops We Did It Again!” memes, not understanding the inherent privilege of easy fertility. So, you can get resentful of others, for sure.
Solution: Very few people are getting pregnant to spite you. Hopefully no one is, really. Most of them barely know why they’re getting pregnant in the first place, TBH. Best solution is a slow reduction in your own triggers.
