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The Generalized Pursuit Of Confidence

I’ve been feeling like a loser for a long time. Maybe it’s time to shift that.

Ted Bauer
3 min readOct 25, 2023

I’ve been feeling like a loser for a long time, to be honest. I’ve addressed it in some other posts of mine, probably most notably this one:

I think it’s at some intersection of:

  • Infertility
  • Life to this point hasn’t gone according to “plan” (ha)
  • Friendships
  • Where I’m headed
  • A general state of malaise about America and the world

I definitely grew up privileged, or at least upper-middle-class, with some down years sprinkled in the 0–18 period. I do feel like I’ve fumbled the snap on said privilege, as I currently bartend at a Main Event location, which is something I would have never seen myself doing at various points in my existence.

However, I also started thinking recently that none of that matters. Who the hell even knows what makes a certain job “prestigious?”

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Ted Bauer
Ted Bauer

Written by Ted Bauer

I write about a lot of different topics, from work to masculinity to relationships and social dynamics, I.e. modern friendship. Pleasure to be here.

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