The Baseline Problem Of Male Infertility

In many situations, nothing you do is “good” if the baseline is not present. That’s part of what makes it hard.

Ted Bauer
4 min readApr 16, 2024

A lot of couples in human history (all?) have argued, and oftentimes in long-term relationships, the arguments are about something totally different than the actual topic that started them. I think most of us are familiar with this trend line. I had a buddy years ago who was famous for dating women for about 2–3 years (pretty long!) and then it would end in a spectacular crash. Now he’s 43 and married to a 28 year-old, so go figure, ya know? He would always tell me: “I hate how the goal posts move in relationship fights.” Indeed. Many of us hate that.

From my reading and my own anecdotal observations of life and what people post about on social media and all that bullshit, it seems like most long-term relationship arguments revolve around some perceived slight, something from the past that one or both parties cannot give up, or guys being a derp and not doing anything to help with kids/home. I’ve written about that before.

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Ted Bauer

Mostly write about work, leadership, friendship, masculinity, male infertility, and some other stuff along the way. It's a pleasure to be here.