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I know that not every time you go out, as girls or guys, you’re actually with people who are your friends. Sometimes you’re with superficial acquaintances who you like to party/drink with. That happens.
But seriously — keep track of your friends. If you think they’re drunk, text them, call them, go with them, get in cabs with them, make sure they get home and pass out in their bed. Take ownership of the situation.
This goes for girls and for guys, honestly — obviously it’s probably a bigger issue with females — but I can tell you that I’ve been drunk and done terrifyingly stupid things in my life. I was OK — I’m sitting here writing this, for example — but I’ve wished that I had people looking after me at the time. I once took a cab home from Manhattan to Queens, fell asleep in the cab, the cab driver took me to the wrong part of Queens (not a good part), I asked him to take me to where I live, and he said, “No, the ride is over.” I was drunk and stumbling around a bad part of Queens looking for another cab, which wasn’t coming. Something could have easily happened to me there. Meanwhile, none of the people I had been hanging out with — when I got drunk — actually called me or texted me or anything, even the next day. Those…
