Our multi-tiered, but solvable, decline in connection of late

Ted Bauer
9 min readNov 21, 2021

I know most people don’t want to think about this stuff yet, provided you’re even a Christian, but Thanksgiving — provided you’re in the USA — is this week, and that starts this whole weird period of the year where family is everywhere, and so are commitments, and it can feel overwhelming, and family can be beautiful but also absolutely tragic.

I crank a lot of different music this time of year, including the above video, which is “Same Old Lang Syne,” a riff on the song they play after the ball drops for NYE.

Some lyrics:

We drank a toast to
innocence

We drank a toast to
now

And tried to reach beyond the
emptiness

But neither one knew
how

Intense stuff, eh?

Those lyrics definitely described 2020 in many ways … there was emptiness over all manner of things, including lockdowns, lack of access to people, death, racial discord, elections, partisanship, the fact that money clearly isn’t real, and more.

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Ted Bauer

I write about a lot of different topics, from work to masculinity to relationships and social dynamics, I.e. modern friendship. Pleasure to be here.