Don’t write about sexual history or morality that often — although have, here and there — but figured I’d use my relatively-limited platform to make a quick point herein.
This comes about at the intersection of a few things:
- A NPR Hidden Brain podcast on “the hookup culture,” which talks about Tinder and stuff but is mostly focused on college campuses. So many depressing lines in that podcast about how 18 to 22-year-olds are learning about sex (or continuing to learn about it), including one guy saying “She really liked me, so she can’t have sex with me, but she’s always off having sex with this other guy.” Huh? Our grandparents would be like “Goddamn you, Steve Jobs! You wrought all this!” (He didn’t really.)
- Mark Manson’s “A Brief History Of Romantic Love And Why It Kind Of Sucks.” Good writer and article. You can probably infer a lot of the arguments without me needing to quote anything out. I might later, though.
- My own marriage and divorce deal.
My point is that I think both genders tend to attach a bit too much to sex. That’s a generalization often heaped on females, but I know males (sometimes even myself) guilty of that. But in reality, a lot of sex is simply … well, transactional. Let’s see if I can effectively make this point.
