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Here Is A Good Way To Conceptualize Matthew Perry And Addiction
I took it from this article:
Too often we treat people’s mistakes as moral failures and shape their deaths into cautionary tales rather than recognize our own intense need for love and connection and admit how encumbered by shame many of us are. We continue to have our own versions of the conversation Mr. Perry had with his mother, looking for love and forgiveness from figures in our lives instead of locating these things within ourselves.
We shouldn’t paint a life like Mr. Perry’s as fatally flawed or doomed from the start. We shouldn’t mourn only the loss of a talent and portray the offscreen life as a series of tragic missteps made by someone who almost literally had it all yet still couldn’t find his way to happiness. We shouldn’t perpetuate the myth that fame and fortune can buy someone out of despair and that our failures and mistakes are our fault alone, some freakish combination of bad wiring and bad choices.
Instead, let’s grapple with how much we might have had in common with him: our own mistakes, our own loneliness, our own series of failures, even our own inevitable deaths. No one dies triumphantly, after all. Most people don’t have as many real friends as they’d…
