Do Men Have Enough Of A Model Around “Showing Up” To Show Up For Sons?

This varies by person, without question — but it does seem, sometimes, like an increasing concern of modernity.

Feels sometimes like modern masculinity is extremely confused. We want to transition it into something else, something I guess “less toxic,” but we don’t know exactly what we want to transition it into — and, to be completely honest, a lot of women are still very much comfortable with the “give me three kids + make a nice salary” model. A lot of guys hang their hat on that, and don’t want to do much more — including, uh, like, um, domestic labor and whatnot.

I don’t want to come out and say masculinity is “broken,” because masculinity occurs across 4 billion people. That’s a lot of different versions of it. We can’t generalize about it, really. But it does seem maybe a little bit teetering, as seen through some males.

I worry about men and relationships. I definitely worry about myself in this regard. I don’t really think I have many friends or people I can talk/turn to. If men are being honest with themselves, I think a lot of them would say the same; thing is, men often lie to themselves. (I do this too.)