“But I Just Wanna Be Pregnaaaaaaaant…”

The clarion call of the 30-something female (in less cases than before, when it was 20-something females, but still a decent amount).

Man, I probably have too much on this particular topic, and not really any of it that good. Let’s start.

There is a British show on Apple TV called “Trying.” Basically it’s about a couple that tries to get pregnant, does fertility treatments, and ultimately adopts some kids. Just now, in Season 4, the kids were older. It’s a sweet + cute show, but if you go through infertility, some of it is triggering, for sure. There is a scene on a bus — yes, a public bus — in Season 1, where the main couple has sex (yes, on a public bus) and the woman is sure “that was the one.” Sadly, when you go through infertility, sometimes you have sex and one or the other person says “That was the one.” It isn’t the one, but you want to think hope dies last, ya know? So yea, tough to see or watch.

In that “Trying” show, the main lady (Nikki) says a few times: “I just want to be pregnant.” Now, in my own life I’ve heard this dozens of times — some from my wife, and some from her friends or our mutual friends. This is a complicated one to unpack at some level, because I totally get it and I understand why a woman of a certain age with…