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Addiction And The General Deferring Of Time

“Life is what happens when we’re making other plans.”

Ted Bauer
5 min readApr 3, 2023

While there is a now-somewhat-politicized narrative around addiction “being a choice,” I personally have never thought that is the case. Addicts themselves make choices, absolutely. But I think a lot of addiction is genetic, and even if it’s not genetic, your brain shifts as you become an addict, and you get into this spiral that you can’t easily break, even if you’ve told yourself 10,000 times that you should break it. I’ve lived this dozens of times. I had entire swatches of 2019, 2021, and late 2022 where, if I looked at my microwave clock and it was noon and the weather was nice, I’d basically just drive to a bar with an outdoor area and start having a couple of beers and answering emails or whatever. That should also show you how pointless most white-collar work can be. I often saw guys at those bars in suits, doing the same thing.

So no, I don’t believe addicts “do it to themselves.”

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Ted Bauer
Ted Bauer

Written by Ted Bauer

I write about a lot of different topics, from work to masculinity to relationships and social dynamics, I.e. modern friendship. Pleasure to be here.

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